Am I right? Are you here too? The past month and a half has been a struggle. I wished so many times I could just show people this meme when they asked me how I was doing. Just this. Exactly.
I'm finally seeing the light. Baby is doing okay. Husband is almost done with this semester. There is a vacation on the schedule. Church responsibilities are decreasing. Ohio weather has fully embraced it's actual season and the fresh air has been good for my soul.
I'm grateful for all the ways Jesus sustains in the wilderness and I'm realizing that he only keeps us there for a time, a season, to make us more dependent on him. Well I'm pretty sure only Jesus could get someone out of that ladder situation so mission accomplished here Lord!
Lately, I've been loving when a couple of my friends have been telling each other, "You are enough." These words have come from both mom friends and friends without kiddos. This phrase has been so life giving to me! One of my gal pals told me "Just keep dem babies alive!" Another clapped for me when I told her I emptied the dishwasher.
Has anyone ever done that for you? Just picture me cheering you on right now! Brush your teeth today? GIRL THAT'S AWESOME! Did you accomplish all the things on your to do list and then some? That great too. You are enough.
Ladies, this is what we need from one another. To tell each other. To text each other, shout, instagram, WHATEVER! We don't need to have it all together, because Jesus does and we can rest in that. In every choice, in every season, in every valley and mountain top.
I think about this phrase especially when we are forced to adult and when we make different choices than our friends make. We choose where to live, whether or not to get married, what church to go to, whether or not and when to have kids, and how to raise our kids. In the mom world, we make choices right from the get-go. We choose how to birth our baby, whether to breastfeed, work or not work, when to vaccinate, put the baby on a schedule or go with the flow. There are SO. MANY. CHOICES. And sometimes, although it breaks my heart, these choices divide us.
I don't think they have to, though. By God's grace, I look at my friends and realize they do so many things differently than I do. And I just adore them all!
Maybe the solution is the "You are enough" mentality.
So let me be really clear with you my friend. You are enough.
I could care less if you decide to go to Apex Community Church, live in West Dayton, stay at home, cloth diaper your kid, save for college, exercise and listen to audio books. These are all things I do, big and little choices I've made. And sometimes, when I make a choice, I've felt an internal pressure to justify it to someone else. Or they have felt the need to justify why they have made a different choice to me.
But I what I want, no NEED, you to know, my dear friend? You are enough in Jesus. No matter what choices you've made. No matter how different those choices are from mine. God has made my heart oatmeal enough to say that my choices are not better than your choices. And because I know I am enough in Jesus, I don't feel the need for you to be just like me or me to be just like you. In fact, I think that would get pretty boring and I wouldn't get to learn from you and celebrate the many ways you are different than me. You reflect Jesus. You were made in His image. He loves diversity. He created us all unique, to display unique qualities of himself in each and every realm and situation of this world.
Even stuck in a ladder falling down the stairs, He will uniquely reflect in you as he chooses to guide you out of that situation in a different way than He would with me.
So, next time, when we feel the need to justify our own choices, let's remind ourselves of the one who is in control of our choices in the first place. Or when we hear our friend justifying their choices, perhaps we could gently say, "You are enough." Or maybe, "YAY!" Or maybe even clap for them!
I don't think that means you have to be alone in every single choice you make. It's good to relate to people who understand and agree with your own choices. But let's not make that the standard for every friendship, every Christ follower, every mama, every sister or brother.
What I care about the most is that you know the love of Christ and in Him, you are enough.
Now, can I help you out of that ladder?